I am Ida and I am 33. The date of my birth is the 9th of March, 1974, 00.55
a.m. I was born and live in Ulan-Ude, the republic of Buryatia, Russia. I myself
find some reasonable points in astrology, so I can say that I am a true Pisces-woman
(or a Mermaid :-) with ascendant in Scorpio. Here in the East, though, people
tend to rely more on the Eastern astrology, which takes into account years of
birth, not months. So I am a Tiger here.
Well, I was born in Ulan-Ude,
the small provincial (in the best meaning of the word) town, where Buryats and
Russians have been living peacefully since the 18th century when the tribe of
Buryats moved from Mongolia and joined Russia. So I am of Mongolian decent and
have a drop of Chenghis-Khan's blood in me. I am not that cruel, though :-). As
you probably are aware, the nations and peoples of the former Soviet Union had
a kind of common past and culture which is better described as Soviet rather than
Russian, so I don't speak the Buryat language as my parents never did. And that
is what I sometimes regret.
Here there is a curious mix of cultures; Christian
Orthodoxy coexists with the Tibetan branch of Buddhism. As for me, I cannot say
I am a practicing Buddhist, rather have own ideas on spiritual side of life, and,
though they have no classification, they are strong and I follow them firmly.
My
parents are alive and well, thanks God, they are as young as 55 both and live
here in Ulan-Ude. My Mom is a college teacher, a vice head of the college; she
is still working. My Father is a colonel; he worked at the Ministry of Inner Affairs
of the Republic and is retired now as they get retired earlier than others. I
am grateful to them; they taught me much, even only with mere being themselves,
and the older I am getting the clearer I see their weaknesses which makes me love
them stronger. I live separately but try to visit them whenever it is possible.
I
am 2 years older than my sister. Though the difference is not big, I have always
felt an "elder sister", being extremely responsible and protective.
Even though she has a 5 year-old daughter, my niece, with whom we are in mutual
love :-). Every time we meet, we hug and kiss each other as if we haven't met
for ages, and I seem to be a model for her in all "girly" things like
clothes, cosmetics and so on. My sister is an accountant; she lives and works
here in Ulan-Ude. And again, the older and more experienced we get, the higher
is level we communicate on. We could quarrel when children, but now there is almost
nothing to quarrel about as we agree in essentials - that we want her daughter,
my niece, to grow a good, clever and kind person and our parents have peaceful
life. So we are more friends now than sisters, and I like it much more.
As
for my childhood - I was a kind of a "good" girl :-). I finished high
school with a silver medal, (which means I had only 2 good marks among the majority
of excellent ones) which was a big reason for my parents to be proud of me. I
was really good at literature, languages and all the Humanities and frankly, found
Sciences a bit difficult (actually, the good marks were in Algebra and Chemistry,
if I remember it right). Still now I have some troubles with calculating and counting
:-). I also attended musical school, the piano class for six years. I did not
like it very much for different reasons - because of some teachers, plus it was
hard for a child to combine it with school lessons and having to do assignments
for both, but I continued attending, mostly for my parents who wanted me to become
'musically' educated, until I felt it was enough for me. And as soon as I realized
that I didn't want to go there I gave it up, though it was only one year left
till graduation. But how happy and free I felt then!... Still this gave me knowledge
and ability of understanding music and although I don't play the piano now, I
am able to appreciate the beauty expressed in sound.
After finishing high
school I entered the Oriental studies Department of the State University here
in Ulan-Ude. My majors were the Mongolian and Chinese languages, but seemingly
I preferred English :-), so that my English teacher, who was the head of the Foreign
Languages Chair, invited me to work there as a teacher after I graduated the University
(also with the diploma which contained excellent marks only. I think that was
the matter of the right choice of the field to study :-). So, since 1997 I've
been working at the chair as an English teacher, at the same Department where
I studied. And another teacher, of the Mongolian language, suggested me to take
a postgraduate course at his Chair; so I was combining continuing my study and
acquiring an experience as a teacher. That was hard, but interesting and as I
was still used to study then, went smoothly, so I obtained a Ph.D. degree in Linguistics
in 2002.
Since this year I am in the position of associate professor and
teach English speech practice and also a theoretical course in grammar. I like
teaching, and I am proud to see that I am really good at it, though sometimes
it may get to seem boring or routinous. I would define my working style as collaborative
rather than didactic, as pushing on people is never an option for me. I think
if I worked less, it could become a much more creative activity as it is originally
supposed to be… I guess I have come to a kind of a critical point in career
when I realized that I am not quite satisfied with what and how I do. This is
the reason why I am taking a course of psychology, a kind of another higher education.
It is hard. I already have forgotten how it feels - to be student and to make
myself study. I hope to do some research in marginal spheres like psycholinguistics,
for example, and then - teach it :-). This is for practical side; but the main
motivation was for myself - to make everything clear with myself and, naturally,
to let my future children grow balanced, harmonious persons, able to cope with
everything life has to offer. Now I realize how over cared, over pampered, touchy
and vulnerable I was. Happily enough, I am progressing along the path of self-development:.
I am a compassionate person; but also have some limits when it comes to
being with people. I know that I do best if I spend a fair amount of time on my
own. I've come to understand that if I don't take good care of myself, eventually
I'll be not good to anyone, including myself or others.
I love to learn
and intellectually curious, so I can say that I am well-informed in things that
matter to me. I am accepting of other people and other ways of thinking and believing
and flexible enough to listen to something new, and, if it works for me, I'll
take it. I am very emotional. Although I try to deal with sadness, fear, joy or
anger in a more reserved manner, I am free to express my passions about certain
subjects with appropriate people. I rank true intimacy very high; that is probably
why I have few friends, though many good acquaintances. And I am very intuitive,
sensitive and romantic, idealistic and a bit of a perfectionist. I am mostly led
by my feelings while I like to think I am ruled by my mind. It is often that I
sit at breakfast for an hour or so with an 'empty' look in my eyes trying to guess
what the dream that I saw that night could mean…or, if the dream was exciting,
trying to recollect the most wonderful details of it :-). I am sensual - as probably
any woman, I live in the world of colours, smells, touches, tastes and sounds.
A familiar tune or perfume can take me completely away to the situation when they
were first heard or felt. I used to be somewhat good at drawing as a child - now
all these art abilities (if there were any :) have reduced to the love for nice
clothes, color matching in cosmetics, the love for proportion etc. etc. which,
if reached, also makes me feel happy.
I
am 165 cm tall and weigh 52 kg. The picture in black expresses my style in clothes
perfectly - I am loving tight skirts and dresses, and haven't got a pair of jeans
:-). Really. That means I am not fond of walking holidays and extreme kinds of
sports at all. But may be the reason is that there haven't been the right man
in my life to convert me into this:. My other passion is high heeled shoes, …
cosmetics… perfumes… I better stop here as I can talk on this women's
stuff for hours:. I love monochromatic intensive colors (purple, violet, dark
blue and black) on me and clear bright ones - around. I believe everything looks
at its best when it is not overloaded with many details, and silhouette and shape
mean much more than details to me. I love to create peaceful atmosphere of home,
even if the circumstances are far from home. And I am good at solving conflicts,
my colleagues jokingly call me a "peacemaker". I do not think though
that people should hide their feelings and opinions in order to avoid conflicts
if it comes to something essential. It is always possible to speak it out in a
civilized way and to find a solution.
Joining
the site was not an easy step for me to take, as it meant having to admit that
I obviously had failed in finding the man whose wife and partner I would like
to be, here around me. I haven't had any problems with getting men's attention;
most people would say I am too selective. Yes, I am particular in my standards
about a partner (hopefully it means that I am also growing as a person and certain
about of what I want because I am aware of what I am :). And I would like to meet
a man who is also very selective and particular about his life-partner and who
can see beyond the appearance. So I decided to look broader.
I
know I will feel complete and can make feel complete a well-educated (Master's
Degree or Doctorate ideally), ambitious professional, who is successful in his
career, a person with good sense of humor able to afford the luxury of self-irony:,
fit, very romantic, still a bit idealistic in his mid- , late thirties - early
forties, serious but with a 'naughty boy' still living in his heart, passionate
and generous, who has come to the realization that to be completely happy he only
needs true intimacy and a warm family. An ideal relationship, to my mind, begins
with the mutual being charmed by qualities and looks of each other, feeling of
'fatedness' of the meeting. If that mysterious sparkle is there, it can generate
most wonderful things out of it…It will be the man whom I will want to follow.
The man who is ready to move mountains for me, although I would probably never
ask him to… but it is important for me to know that he is ready. And I am
ready to follow him wherever he takes me. And then…I see the ideal relationship
as being such an interaction, where we never cease to inspire each other to personal
growth, to amaze and discover the partner and ourselves. Of course, passion, understanding,
care, affection are also there. If we manage to create such a relationship, jealousy
and possessiveness simply won't find room there:. I have to say that I feel much
more content and confident in my present age than before. I am still as fragile,
sensitive and weak as I used to be…but now I am aware of what and how I am,
more mature and stronger, and it is now when I have so much to give to my beloved
and future children whom I definitely want to have.
If
summarize what I have told - I am Ida, 33 years old, Pisces in astrology, Asian,
165 cm for 52 kg, black long wavy haired, brown eyed, slim, able to speak and
write English, PhD and working as a university teacher in Ulan-Ude, Buryatia,
Russia. I am romantic, serious, sensitive, weak and strong at crises, family-minded,
intelligent and smart:. I am looking for a life-partner - a well-educated (Masters
degree or Doctorate preferably), ambitious, fit, successful professional, a self-ironic,
mature, sensitive romantic, who has come to the realization that to be completely
happy he only needs true intimacy and a warm family. Someone to inspire and be
inspired by… to share the feeling when you walk not fly just because you
choose to… to discover new aspects of life together. The age range is from
35 to 45. I have Internet connection at home and check my mail every day.
posted
on December 27, 2007
