Free
Dating Sites vs. Paid Dating Sites
Copyright
(C) 2006 Elena Solomon, author of 12
Simple Rules
I
have used and worked for several dating sites, both free and paid.
I know
Internet personals from A to Z.
And I came to realize that free dating sites
were awfully expensive. Want
to know why? First,
free dating sites attract all types of rubbish: Nigerian scammers, Russian "mail
order brides", and all types of unstable and wicked people that were banned
from quality services. Those people have too much time on their hands (or it is
their full-time Internet rip-off occupation) and this is why they don't mind to
hang there. On
the other hand, since the website is free, they do not have much staff on hand
to look after it, and check on possible scams. So scammers are free to go wild
there. Second,
free dating sites usually make their revenue from the ads they show to their members.
In other words, they aren't really interested in you actually FINDING someone
on their site: they would rather have you frustrated and clicking on the ads you
see on their site. Another
venue is selling your email address to mass-mailing companies, or running mass-mailings
themselves. It means you risk being bombarded with hundreds of commercial emails,
day after day. Third,
I find it appalling that a person cannot find some twenty bucks to pay for a subscription.
As a woman, I want to KNOW that the guy I am talking to is at least capable of
paying his own rent. If
I were a guy, I would also prefer a woman who is capable of looking after herself
and doesn't think a man is there to provide for her. Forth,
the software on free sites is often inconvenient and the customer support sucks.
I prefer things that work as they are supposed to. Fifth,
for a busy person like you and me, filtering through heaps of bogus profiles can
be maddening. My time is valuable. I'd rather spend it meeting someone for coffee
than talking to people that aren't even real. On
a paid dating site people have invested something in the process, so they are
more serious and don't play games. Sixth,
for all the reasons outlined above, quality people tend to avoid free dating services.
Their time is too valuable. If you want to meet a quality person, you are unlikely
to meet them on free sites. All
in all, I have realized that using a free dating site is awfully expensive. I
simply cannot afford it. It costs me more in time and effort, which I could use
more productively - like running a dating coaching session, or writing an article. I'd
rather pay for subscription and have ten times less frustrations and ten times
more results. What
about you? ABOUT
THE AUTHOR: 
Elena Solomon is a dating coach.
Her
latest book "12
Simple Rules" became #1 'Love & Romance' bestseller in the leading
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how you can utilize the natural laws of attraction and our in-built sexual strategies
to win in the game of love. A special part in the book is devoted to online dating. Get
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