How
To Start A Conversation With An Attractive Stranger
Copyright
(C) 2006 Elena Solomon, author of 12
Simple Rules For
many people, starting a conversation with a stranger is an intimidating task.
But for you, after reading this article, it will be a breeze. The
best beginning for the conversation is, "Hi".
(I am sure you can
master that!) The
second step is to introduce yourself, "Hi, I am Jim." (Not too tricky,
is it?) Then it
goes depending on circumstances. The three most popular and foolproof conversation-starters
are: - Make a
comment about the surroundings;
- Enquire about something unusual in their
appearance;
- Ask for a comment from a woman’s/man’s point of view. Let’s
talk about those conversation-starters in more detail. 1.
Making a comment about the SURROUNDINGS. This
is the safest and universal conversation-starter. Wherever you are, something’s
always happening around you. There are people, or cars, or queues, or something
else. Even if there is nothing happening, you can make a comment about that! Use
a bit of humor in your comment and most of the time you will get a favorable answer. For
example: - Hi,
what a chilly/hot day today (on a hot day, say it’s chilly, on a chilly day, say
it’s hot -- it’s VERY funny). I see you are also shivering/sweating. By the way,
my name is Jim. What is your name?
- Hi, you know, you look very pretty with
these awesome roses as the backdrop. By the way, my name is Jim. What is your
name?
- Hey, this queue doesn’t seem to be moving, does it? Since we are going
to spend the next few hours here together, I guess I should introduce myself:
I am Jim. What is your name? 2.
Enquiring about something unusual in their appearance. This
requires some skill but after a while you will be able to pick up something in
an instant. It can be a tattoo, a piece of jewelry, a handbag, or even an unusual
color. People don’t buy things at random. They buy them and wear them because
they LIKE them, or because they MEAN something to them. They have some pleasant
emotion attached to it. If you mention this thing, you can tap into this pleasant
emotion and they will consider your advances more favorably. For
example: - Hi!
I could not help but noticed this interesting ring. It isn’t an engagement ring,
is it? If it is, I will have to end my life in a monastery. And by the way, my
name is Jim.
- Hi, I was looking at your earrings; they are exactly what I
was looking for, as a present for my sister. Where did you get them? And by the
way, my name is Jim.
- Hi, I could not help but noticed the book you are reading,
“Men are from Mars, women are from Venus”. So, what do you think about it? And
by the way, my name is Jim. 3.
Asking for a comment from a woman’s/man’s point of view. This
is my favorite!
For some mysterious reason, we just LOVE rendering our opinion
as a woman/man. This is such a successful conversation-starter; you can use it
anywhere, on anyone. Even 90-year-old grannies will be happy to answer your enquiries. For
example: - Hi!
I am Jim. My friend and I were talking about what women value the most in men
they date, and could not agree. Could you please help us out with a woman’s opinion?
-
Hi, I am Jill. My friend and I were talking about what men value the most in women
they date, and could not agree. Could you please help us out with a man’s opinion?
-
Etc, etc. It doesn’t
matter what you are asking about. The point is, we all understand that men and
women think differently and we appreciate a thoughtful stranger who makes an effort
to learn from the source. That’s
it! You see, it’s
not scary at all. Just go and try it - first on the people you don’t care about,
and then on the people you like. You will see that men and women alike generally
respond very positively to a friendly stranger. Start
with the service personnel at the shops and cafes. They are PAID to be nice to
you. Look them in the eyes and strike a conversation. You will see how easy it
is. Once you learn
the skill of starting a conversation with strangers, your life is never going
to be the same. You will be able to feel at home wherever you go - simply because
you know how to talk to people you never met. Try
it.
It feels fantastic! ABOUT
THE AUTHOR: 
Elena Solomon is a dating coach.
Her
latest book "12
Simple Rules" became #1 'Love & Romance' bestseller in the leading
ebook distribution service in just ONE WEEK after the release. It provides extensive
training into successful communication along with practical and fully usable examples.
Must read if you are single and seeking. Don't
read this book if you want to keep your life just the way it is.
http://www.12SimpleRules.com/
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