Sexual
Strategies Copyright
(C) 2006 Elena Solomon, author of 12
Simple Rules Have
you ever thought WHY men’s and women’s sexual strategies are so different? -
Why men want sex and women want love? - Why there are NO books teaching women
how to get one-night stands? - Why women complain about men not loving them
enough - but refusing to make love? If
you’ve ever been frustrated with the opposite gender, I feel for you. I’ve been
there, too. In fact, for nearly two decades of my life I was completely clueless
on what was going on between men and women - with disastrous results. Then
I decided I’d had enough and I wanted to learn what the other gender was REALLY
looking for and HOW one could master that. In short, I wanted to know what makes
men and women tick. This
is what I learned and what every man and woman must know. Our
sexual strategies are deeply imprinted in our SUBCONSCIOUS. We cannot
CHANGE what is there. We cannot CHOOSE whom we feel attracted
to. We just FEEL it. Why?
Because, from
Mother Nature’s point of view, the purpose of life is LIFE itself. It’s
procreation. In other words, to keep the human race thriving, men and women should
have sex and have children. To
make men and women have sex Mother Nature created a mechanism, which drives males
and females towards one another. This mechanism is what we routinely call LOVE,
or attraction. Attraction
is actually a cocktail of certain hormones generated in our bodies in the presence
of someone who appears to be good genes - in other words, a person of the opposite
gender who seems to have the capacity of producing a healthy offspring that will
survive. Those
hormones make us feel euphoric and excited, and we feel an enormous urge to get
in close contact with the person we are attracted to. This
is really what love is all about. It’s just the means of making us have sex
with each other and make babies. All
those poems about the wonders of love are written about the condition of a human
being under the influence of a powerful mix of natural drugs. And
yes, it hits high! Anyone who’s been in love can confirm that. The
thing you must understand is that this process is COMPLETELY UNCONTROLLABLE. We
cannot CHOOSE who we fall in love with. This
is because the purpose of procreation is so important that Mother Nature cannot
rely on our recently developed intellectual capacities to make the right choice.
Instead, it uses the wisdom of generations BEFORE us to make the choice
FOR us. The mechanism of sexual attraction is firmly imprinted in our GENETIC
MEMORY. We
are attracted to certain patterns of behavior and physical characteristics. When
we come across those patterns in real life, we feel attraction to this person
- and we cannot help it. With
all advances in modern science and birth control, we still have the same biological
hardware as our pre-historical ancestors. Scientists say that we have the same
bodies as our forebears some 50,000 years ago. It
means that when you fall in love (or lust), you do it the same way as cavemen
and cavewomen did. You simply FEEL it. You cannot CONVINCE yourself
to fall in love – you either feel it, or not. So,
why men and women use such different sexual strategies? Why men want sex and
women want love? Because men and women ARE different. Not
better or worse, but different. A
man can produce a child every time he has sex, and a woman can only produce a
child only every second year or so. So
for a man, there are no adverse consequences for having sex with as many women
as he wants - the more children he produces, the higher his chance to procreate.
For a woman,
it’s different. She needs to be selective to secure the best genes for her child.
If she makes a wrong choice and falls pregnant from a man with bad genes, her
offspring may not survive into adulthood. And she can only produce about 10 children
during her lifetime. This
is why men’s and women’s sexual strategies are so different. Men
seek quantity; women seek quality. Men seek abundance of sex, women - abundance
of admirers. This
is absolutely NATURAL. This
is the reason why you are here today and alive – because your ancestors, men and
women, acted true to their natural aspirations. Millions of dead ends of your
species vanished into oblivion – and every single one of YOUR ancestors managed
to find a sexual partner and produce an offspring that survived into adulthood.
- If your female
ancestors weren’t picky, you wouldn’t be here today. - If your male ancestors
weren’t trying to get laid at every opportunity, you might as well never be born. STOP
wining about the tricks of the opposite gender. The
battle of the sexes is the battle for the survival of HUMANITY. We
are made this way. Accept it. And
learn to use it to your advantage! ABOUT
THE AUTHOR:
Elena Solomon is a dating coach.
Her
latest book "12
Simple Rules" became #1 'Love & Romance' bestseller in the leading
ebook distribution service in just ONE WEEK after the release. It shows
you EXACTLY how you can utilize the natural laws of attraction and our
in-built sexual strategies to win in the game of love. Get
the UNFAIR ADVANTAGE in the battle of sexes! Go
here: http://www.12SimpleRules.com/
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