Why
Men Want Sex and Women Want Love
Copyright
(C) 2006 Elena Solomon, author of 12
Simple Rules
Men
are frustrated with women because they never want sex. Women are frustrated with
men because they always want sex. Women blame men they don't know how to love.
Men blame women that they only talk about love but don't want to make it. Whether
you are a man or a woman, reading this article can change your life - finally,
you will be able to get rid of your frustrations about the opposite gender. The
reason humans want sex is due to the hormone testosterone, which is predominantly
male hormone. A normal male's body produces 20 times more of this hormone than
a female's. In
other words, a male feels the same way after one day without sex as a female after
20 days without sex. A male that has not had sex in 20 days feels the same way
as a female after more than a year without sex. Knowing
this simple difference, you can already understand the pain of the opposite gender.
It's NOT their fault: they are made this way! It's in our genes! This is the reason
why men are men and women are women. Men
and women are DIFFERENT.
Not better or worse, just different. A
man can father a child every time he has sex, and a woman can only mother a child
every two years or so. This means, a woman HAS TO be picky about who she allows
to have sex with her. For
generations women were paying too high a price for making a wrong choice. Women
that have chosen men with bad genes had a weaker offspring and their children
struggled to survive. Women that have chosen men with good genes had a stronger
offspring and their children survived disproportionally. Those children were carrying
their picky mother's genes and this is why those female genes were passed to us. On
the other hand, men never had adverse consequences of making a wrong choice. The
more children they produced, the higher was their chance to pass their genes to
future generations, as some of them would certainly survive. While men were determined
to seek better genes too, they had to grab all chances to procreate coming their
way to ensure their genes would be passed forward. The men that ONLY stuck with
one woman (even a high quality woman) were losing genetically to the men that
used all of their opportunities and had many more children that survived. Those
children were carrying their father's promiscuous genes, and this is why those
male genes were passed to us. By
Nature men are made to seek as much sex as they can get, so they can spread their
seed wider. By
Nature women are made to seek as many admirers as they can get, so they can make
a better choice and get the best seed. Men
seek quantity - women seek quality. This
is why men seek sex and women seek love. Love
is the proof that a woman needs to have some assurance that the man will stick
around and help her with the upbringing of the offspring. For a woman, sex is
the culmination of her emotional commitment to a man. For
a man, sex is a physical act that eases the testosterone pressure he experiences
constantly. Only after this tension has gone, can a man feel love towards a woman.
This is why it often happens that men disappear after they got what they wanted:
it wasn't love; it was the testosterone pressure. Sex for men is the reality check
of their passion. This
is why having sex early in the relationship is hazardous for women: the man has
not had the time to develop any romantic feelings for her. He needs time to develop
those feelings, and the only way to do it is through keeping the sexual tension
going for as long as practicable. Sex must be attainable, nearly possible - but
not quite. When the sexual tension is at its peak, its release is mind-blowing
- and once is never enough, which lays a proper foundation for a future relationship
- and love. Men
fall in love through sex; women fall in sex through love. All
of this happens on the unconscious level - we do NOT realize what's going on.
But the reason
why you are here today and alive is because each and every of your ancestors,
men and women, acted true to their instincts and managed to attract at least one
sexual partner and produce an offspring. So,
there is no need to be bitter about men wanting sex and women wanting love. Those
two are the necessary pieces of the puzzle called Survival Of The Species. And
you'll be better off understanding what the other gender is going through and
giving them exactly what they want: a mind-blowing sex or exhilarating love. Go
get 'em! :-) 
Elena Solomon is a dating coach.
Her
latest book "12
Simple Rules" became #1 'Love & Romance' bestseller in the leading
ebook distribution service in just ONE WEEK after the release. It shows you EXACTLY
how you can utilize the natural laws of attraction and our in-built sexual strategies
to win in the game of love. A special part in the book is devoted to online dating. Get
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